Vengeance looks like the best decision to make after one has been hurt. It is very widespread these days (especially among the youths), everybody wants to reciprocate what has been done to them. You can agree with me that it has obviously done more harm than good! I was once hurt and the best way I took revenge was by becoming a better person.

According to Merriam Webster:Revenge is the act of doing something to hurt someone because that person did something that hurt your emotions. Revenge is also the act of defeating an opponent who has defeated you in the past (I see this as a positive payback ).
You might have been hurt in one way or the other by people you love and trust and it might be hard for you to get over them like that without a payback but, it’s not worth your precious energy and time. Pain makes us grow and you have to leave the pain they’ve caused you behind, learn the lesson(s) from the encounter and launch out because revenge won’t make you feel any better, rather it would lead to an increase in emotional instability.

The painful thing is that people don’t get to know the complete story, they mostly judge based on one side of the story. They tend to see your retaliation but won’t pay attention to what was done to you and this might make you lose opportunities you’ve been looking forward to. Sometimes revenge backfires and I want you to remember that two wrongs don’t make a right!

To become a great person in life you must see an advantage in every disadvantage and the way you handle hurt is a measure of your emotional maturity. A genius, Albert Einstein once said; “weak people revenge, strong people forgive, smart people, ignore”. It’s easier said than done to ignore but you just have to get it done! Sometimes all you need to do is sit down and figure out why the person did that to you (sometimes you don’t get to understand why which is normal) but make sure you learn from the ordeal.

What does the Bible say about revenge? 1Thess.5:15 “See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men.”
Mark.11.25 – And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”
1Pet.3.9 – “Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.” From this last Bible verse, we can see that revenge can stop your heavenly or earthly blessings… Can you now see that it isn’t worth it at all!

How then do you handle revenge?

  1. Allocate the time and energy you intended to revenge to ideas or things that would add values and make great changes in your life
  2. Remind yourself that you are loved and don’t allow bad experience(s) to reshape your world.
  3. Remember the good times you had with the person(s). People can’t be totally bad.
  4. Learn lessons from the experience and make sure it doesn’t happen again.
  5. Talk to someone you love and trust; Surround yourself with people.
  6. Forgive, whether the person asks for it or not: this is the best way to level up. BITTERNESS and RESENTMENT block progress. But you have to remember that forgiveness is not equivalent to access
  7. Read stories of people who overcame hurt in their own existences
  8. Pray for the person and have positive and great intentions towards the person.
  9. Pray, talk to God so he would open your eyes to see what He’s teaching you. It might be forgiveness or tolerance.

Points to consider:
•The best revenge is a massive success(Frank Sinatra)

•Revenge is not always sweet. Once it is consummated, we feel inferior to our victim. (Emile M Cioran)

Never stop being the love that you are! The fact that you were hurt shows that you were loving and kind enough to be susceptible to the hurt. You wouldn’t want a bad experience with someone to eliminate the loving nature in you, would you?

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