Dear reader(s). Could I ask you a quick question? What have you observed about we humans? In the other way round, what have you been taught by the school of life about people? Personally, I have been taught by the school of life about humans through many sessions which I would really love to share:
(1)Their unending desire for growth and advancement. We humans never stop dreaming new dreams. Our hearts race constantly towards new wishes, goals, aspirations, visions, resolutions and so on in those directions. And this incessant desire to work and become better, I think is due to the way God has created us: Ephesians 2:10- ” for we are God’s masterpiece created anew in Christ Jesus so that we can do all the good things He planned for us long ago” and 2 Corinthians 5:5[MSB] – ” It’s what we trust but don’t see that keeps us going.”
It’s with no iota of doubt a good thing to hope for the best and work towards it.
Hold up for a minute, What if hope and work aren’t enough to make these dreams come true? What if only being positive alone would only earn one a modicum of success? 🤔 oh… Ehm… What if we consider traditions(habits) that would make the journey to transformation easier?
Here are some traditions I believe by practical lessons life has put me through make this journey easier:
- Reading: This is absolutely crucial for growth. Reading gives you exposure to the great Achiever’s secrets of success and life failures which in return prevents you from making the same mistakes they have made. It expands your mind, improves your vocabulary, changes your view about life and most importantly brings you in place to achieve your goals and dreams without passing through unnecessary turns in life. Books have a way of enlarging your capacity. Great treasures and instructions are hidden in books. No wonder God has decided to make the human guide(the Holy Bible ) a book – this shows how powerful books are!
- Making intentional decisions: Decision Making is one of the keys to success. To be great in life, we must learn how to make good decisions based on our future and not our feelings.
You must be in total control of your feelings and not the other way round. Remember that in proverbs 14:12 it says, ” there’s a way that seemeth right to a man but its end is a way to death”. The way may seem right to you because you are probably entangled in a quagmire of emotions. Whenever you find yourself in this situation, it’s advisable as it’s written in Proverbs 3:6 that; “you seek God with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding”- Proverbs 3:6
You can try the 5 ‘why’s principle’ (https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTMC_5W.htm). Remember as someone once wrote: ” you were born looking like your parents, but you would end up looking like your decisions” what decisions are you making?
- Building and restoring relationships: we need people, we can’t do and have it all, we can’t do without each other (forget that ‘dey your dey’ impractical quote).This is the main reason we weren’t made to have all the talents and abilities. But the problem comes in when selecting the right people. How do we know the right people? With the help of the Holy Spirit, we can do that by having our core values, knowing what we want and where we are heading to, and also having goals. Relationships are best built on these three. A man of God, Pastor Poju Oyemade, once said, ” the biggest capital you can have is solid relationships. One’s solid relationship can open doors your capital can’t open”. Is there an old friend you think you need to call? Or there is someone you really miss their impact on your life? Give them a call! Oops, lest I forget, how about the friend or business partner you broke up with? Drop your ego like a hot potato and build that relationship back!
If there are friends you think you can help, please don’t hesitate to help them, There is no little help. Help them with resources, pages, information that you think will surely push them forward. Partner with them with no ulterior motive as to enlarge them in the investments or skills or whatever it is they are good or ‘bad’ at and also be ready to criticize them constructively. Correct them when they need to be corrected. Never hide the truth from them and never assume anything without proper investigation.
Make food friends and keep good companies. In proverbs 27:17 (NLT), the Bible says,” As iron sharpens iron, a friend sharpens a friend.” Who are your friends? Are you being motivated by your friends to do more? Do you also motivate them to do more? What relationships are you building? Remember: you are the 5 people you spend time with the most.
- Putting a halt to procrastination: procrastination is a poison to goal achievement. We tend to procrastinate when we wait for and think there’s a “perfect time” and the Bible makes us know in the book of Ecclesiastes chapter eleven verses four, “If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done”. You can crop more dose of the knowledge of procrastination here ➡ https://insights4fulfiilledlife.com/2019/12/28/fighting-procrastination-and-taking-actions-immediately/
Procrastination is just another word for delayed execution. Whatever it is that needs to be done today, do it!
- The habit of loving: Love the greatest force 😉. Yes, I want us to practice the habit of loving unconditionally, not ones out of ulterior motives. The World would actually become a better place to be when we love one another unconditionally regardless of tribe, race, color, religion, height, status or whatever it is that ‘separates’ people.
Love is a very good seed that never stops producing good fruits. When you are full of love, you would be automatically full of ideas, because you would always want to (out of love) provide a solution(s) to problems people are facing. As someone once wrote, “And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic all-purpose garment. Never be without it” – Colossians 3:14. Love and treat your neighbors as yourself(and in some cases better than you would do to yourself)
- The habit of giving: it’s important for us to learn how to give and practice the habit of giving. And when giving it shouldn’t be out of compulsion or to ‘buy’ someone’s heart or to post on social media handles for likes! Giving should be out of pure love and Joy for “God loves a cheerful giver” and “a generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.”- proverbs 11:25
You might be wondering what to do in a case where you don’t really have “much” to give. Giving isn’t only money. You can give someone your time, knowledge, emotions, to mention a few. Look around carefully, you have what to give. You ain’t empty!
- Respect and humility: I think these are values our generation lack. Respect and humility are extremely important. They help you in places you don’t expect them (out of experience). You have to be intentional about your usage of words, body language and facial languages, say and do to people what you want to be done to you too! Respect and humility have no age or status bracket. The Bible told us to respect all men… All!
- Effective planning and preparation: One of the best ways to circumvent unnecessary stress is to plan and prepare ahead of time, it’s never too early to plan and prepare. Things done in an emergent situation aren’t well done. Jesus speaking in Luke 14:28-30: “which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it—lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish’?” I’m sure you wouldn’t want to be mocked. Would you?
- Leaving the past for the past: Overcoming negative emotions; revenge, pain, hurts, and resentments are necessary for growth. These three are capable of putting a damper to your creative ideas, they are capable of blinding your sights from seeing great opportunities. https://insights4fulfilledlife.com/2019/12/28/is-revenge-really-worth-your-energy/
- God first: The thing is the creator knows better than we do but we tend to ignore this fact by making plans without involving the planner. We tend to depend on our “strengths” and ignore his renewable and unending strength. My dear reader(s), don’t you think life would be much easier for us if we give the best driver, God, the wheel of our lives? How sweet and amazing would life be when we depend on the Grace of God through the blood of Jesus. God is interested in everything we lay our hands-on. He’s ready to help you grow, polish, modify and perfect your dreams and ambitions(as far they aren’t selfish) beyond your wildest dream and expectations. He says in His word: Jer.29.11 -” I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out–plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.”
He said you should:” Call unto me and I will show you great and mighty things which you do not know” and you should also “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy path. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.” You might think you don’t need God(maybe you’ve achieved some goals ‘without ‘ Him) but don’t be too quick to forget that:” all good and perfect gifts are from above” or has it also slipped out of your mind that: “Except the LORD build the house, they labor in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman wakes but in vain.”
Give thanks and give Him all the Glory He deserves(In all situations) and watch your life turn around for best beyond your thoughts or imaginations. And if you are feeling too condemned, unrighteous, imperfect to come to His presence. Worry not, DR. All you need to do is: “… approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”- Heb 4:16 since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ.
One of the best things to do is to serve God. You can either serve God or something far less!
I want to bring to our remembrance that the journey from traditions to transformations won’t be a smooth one(sorry if I broke your heart 😉 ). There would be struggles, frustrations, doubts, fears, to mention a few. I think knowing that pain is an important ingredient for growth would help us in dealing better with the circumstances and challenges ahead… Dr rick Warren, the author of the purpose-driven life, wrote in this edition that: ” to bake a cake you must use flour, salt, raw eggs, sugar, oil, to mention few. Eaten individually, each is pretty distasteful or even bitter. But bake them together and they become delicious. If you will give God all your distasteful, unpleasant experiences, he will blend them together for good.” The mistake we make most time is that we want the delicious cake without the individual bitter ingredients. I know it’s as hard(if not harder )as volume rock to get things accomplished. I want to bring to our remembrance that getting things done and leaving things undone would actually lead or require pains but isn’t it better to choose the pain we want to experience? What pain are you choosing? Is it the pain from getting things done or leaving things undone? Choose wisely!
Thanks for your time and also for being patient enough to read these great traditions😊, It shows how ready and hungry you are for the necessary ingredients to travel into your dreamland. But it would be quite terrible if there’s no difference between you who read this and the person who didn’t. How do you make then this difference? You might ask. You make this difference by putting all that you’ve learned to action. Remember “nothing changes nothing”
Don’t feel too bad if you haven’t done any of the points stated above, it’s never late to start a plan because ” yesterday is not yours to recover but it your responsibility to win or lose”.
You can’t just read the traditions for transformations(T4T) I believe in and go scot-free🙄😄… I would love to learn your T4T also. Kindly drop your T4T in the comment and 👇 so we can rub minds together 😉 and also don’t hesitate to drop the greatest lessons learned. leggo!